CHOICES of BEHAVIOUR

Grown ass responsible adults

 are all free to choose 

our own choices of behaviour. 

But NONE of us are free 

from the outcomes of those behaviour choices. 

Human adult choices MAY BE 

AN internal values based responsive priority. 

CALM, considered, thought through and planned. 

Without being too attached to outcomes  

With major life choices we probably consider far more, shop around far more, ask far more questions and consider the consequences of our freedom to choose far more deliberately, 

Such as the purchase of a home or car, often the two biggest MONETARY PURCHASE decisions people make in their life. 

We may deliberate far more ABOUT where we want to live and what suits our lifestyle, budget allowing, before and during the exciting and often stress full home hunting experience. That’s usually a given for most home buyers. Unless money is no object and you are privileged enough to not even care about a home purchase, because money is of less importance. But those rich billionaires are often arrogant controlling entitled assholes with it… not always, but often. An abundance of Money does that to some people. Cue power hungry politicians using the public purse for a start… 

THOUGHTFUL Human choices are also important when the stakes are lower, LIKE what to purchase as a special gift for your partner, or children or loved ones? 

Or the choice of what to eat, like what to purchase and prepare for dinner tonight? Who does that THOUGHTFUL, CONSIDERATE, choosing if feeding a family? Or does dad or mum or one of the assigned cook siblings just tell the others, “shut up and eat and be grateful”…? 

Choices of behaviour are everywhere. 

Or what to choose from the menu if lucky enough to be dining out? Freedom and bliss of a Big Mac or a quarter pounder… with a shake n fries… 

If you CHOOSE to call fast food, food… 

Or are you more tempestuous? 

More fiery? 

More reactionary? 

Like a knees jerk, fly off the handle loose your shit reaction. 

Still a choice, 

Maybe an unconscious choice, a highly reactive choice,  an ill considered choice in hindsight, but a choice that never the less still has consequences and outcomes. 

If you consistently loose your reactive controlling choices are you actually living your best life? 

Consequences from any chaotic, hot headed, unkind or knee jerk over reactionary choice of words or behaviour or actions can lead to all sorts of complications and misunderstanding and negative unforeseen OUTCOMES. Some people call that cause and effect. Others call it taking responsibility for your shit. Others call it karma or just desserts or you get what you give. 

No matter what label you may give it, one thing is indisputable. 

We are all free to choose our words, actions and behaviours. 

No one is immune from the INTENDED OR UNINTENDED consequences of your choice of WORDS, choices of behaviour AND choices of actions. 

Human RESPONSIBLE adult CHOICES are based on available CURRENT evidence and CURRENT PRIORITIES. 

Choices may also be based partly or fully on AN accumulation of lived wisdom and lived experiences, 

Some of which that may not HAVE BEEN that wise… 

WE LEARN HOPE FULLY FROM OUR MISTAKES. 

without hanging onto shame or guilt or beat your self up for being a dickhead and making a cheese burger choice when you really wanted a kiddies meal… get the point? 

When choosing a committed life partner (not just a take home one night stand play thing) those MUTUAL choices are made from love not for love. 

Two people, often without being able to articulate, without reason, simply realise what the heart chooses. 

Commit and connect, communicate, consideration, forgive, listen and receive, paying attention, no people pleasing, no perfectionism, no walking on egg shells, for better or worse. 

The CHOICES of small things in life and love matter most and the hard lessons of life often Teach us the most. 

If we listen

If we reflect

If we do not blame any other or our self. 

Acceptance is key. To accept does not mean to agree. 

When we ARE responsible for our own choices of words, behaviours and actions, we accept that these are 100% from what we put out there. No one else made us react like an entitled asshole. You chose to. No one else made us be kind, caring and considerate. You chosen to. 

All choices, all priorities, all preferences come back to the depth of self knowledge anyone has about themself. 

Some remain self ignorant. Some remain limited. Not bad or wrong or evil. Just limited as they are yet to integrate their WHOLE self. Often projecting, often enabling, often entitled or addicted or assuming or thinking they know. Often choosing artificial uppers or downers, alcohole and drugs, to “relax” or “loosen up” or “get them through”. All choices which may reveal where a person currently is located on their life path. 

Need to or choose to consistently be a drunken bum? 

Need to or choose to consistently be a wasted honest stoner? 

Need to or choose to be a consistent projector, a NON LISTENING assumer, an over sharing sticky beak or judgemental asshole? Your choices. Your consequences. 

Those who are fiercely aware, are wildly discerning, understand a subtle and nuanced paradox, feel into and live EACH fresh moment fully are making conscious, deliberate, intentional choices. 

 From a place of wholeness, integrated, not perfectionism, not people pleasing, from an alert inner stillness, not anxiously alarmed or reactionary and panic mode, inner chaotic. 

Remain considerate, Not aggressively blame. 

Choose to remain calm even when under pressure or when triggered, Not overreact, lose your shit or worse. 

Choose to accept this moment as the only reality that exists. 

Not becoming a life victim by constant blaming, revenge seeking, finger pointing and assuming. Minding your own business is a great starting point in any moment. 

Choose to be Considerate and relaxed, Not being an insecure, intolerant or socially anxious controller. 

Choose to forgive in a heart beat, Not bitter, biting, staid and stuck revenge seeking. Hanging onto resentments will only hurt your self. Forgive, learn your lesson the first time, love them more, and move on. Simply not an aligned resonance and that’s more than ok. You are not here to be a people pleaser , a yes person without standards or values or ethics or morals. Simply reiterate who you are and what you stand for. Clarity, simplicity, authenticity, inclusion, integrity. 

Not racist assholes, limited MULTIPLE intelligence, limited lived experience, PEOPLE PLEASING manipulators, PERFECTIONISTS and assumers, addicted to spiritual woo woo bypass, consistently wasted drunks and self ignorant happy clapping routine bar stool fools, the checked out lala hippy honest stoners too scared or scarred to face their own music, so they check out of life by cheating on their real self, limiting, misogynistic mansplainers who tell it as it is… the arguers with reality, the force full attached mind “might is right blind cultish (stupid) obedience”. All choices that have consequences. 

Not lowering your personal standards is a choice. 

Not giving up what you stand for is a choice. 

 Not abandoning your own values. Is a choice. 

Not being an intellectual stuck up, in the head perfectionist. Is a choice. 

Not being a wishy washy people pleaser. A yes person. Is a choice. 

Not enabling harmful REPETITIVE behaviour CHOICES. In any form. IS A CHOICE.

Not turning a blind eye to HARMFUL patterns of excessive or dependent addictive alcohol use. Is a choice. 

Not agreeing to or tolerating limiting MISOGYNISTIC, asshole racist, narrow minded HATEFUL, HURTFUL or HARMFUL choices of behaviour. Is a choice. 

Not agreeing to behaviour choices that others may see as their core values. Misaligned, limited, mostly not bad or evil or wrong. Just narrow minded, ill educated and extremely limiting. All choices. 

Common human decency is not a challenge. And it really should not be a choice. It is bare minimum. One creature in creation. Do no harm, take no shit. 

Ignorance is not bliss 

Perpetuating Self ignorance is actually the saddest thing on earth. When you do have a choice in this moment, and ever moment,  to change your priorities, to level up in life, to actually dismiss and discard and drop all that insults your heart and soul. 

Life really is simple, if you so choose. 

To be responsible. 

And accountable. 

And lighten up, 

why so serious, unless it is…