LITTLE BOXES. RELAX, NOTHING IS UNDER CONTROL.
One pattern I’ve noticed
is that people who attach to limiting beliefs
Or complain a lot or blame others,
have not actually lived much in life.
They are mostly not bad, or wrong, or evil
They are just limited.
Or limiting.
Sometimes dogmatic or Narrow minded, staid and stuck.
Attached to labels or roles or religious dogma.
Limited lived experience and often a victim of attached mind habits, Like habitual drinking or recreational drugs or other limited artificial escapist “happy hours” to get them through or help them cope with what they are yet unable to face. Them self. Sober, sincere and openly from love not for love, as unwavering self respect, unchanging self love, full self worth, always Unadulterated.
Those limiters can also be Overly Logical, overly systemically reasonable, overly staid and stuck or planned and pre meditated as in “that’s the way we’ve always done it” with nil curiosity or nil spontaneity about the new, the fresh or the unfamiliar and uncertain and different.
Limiters are often Unable to receive, often pretentious and insincere, scared or scarred and always looking for metaphoricaled or hidden meanings, attached to patterns and smothering partners (or their own self ignorance) with obedience or insecurity or fear via attached conditioning, their un integrated limiting shadow.
Growing up in an energy of repeated chaos or dreary drama or bouncing from crisis to crisis leads to a limited lived experience as an adult.
Remaining as high functioning often “successful” adults but internally wound up in survival mode; over working, attached to an external identity, attached to thinking they know, attached to chasing or seeking, often stressed, mostly anxious, wanting desperately to be liked with attached mind people pleasing, perfectionism, procrastination or an inability to simply sit comfortably with uncertainty (or embrace paradox) in this one bare moment.
These far from integrated people are NOT wrong or evil or bad. Merely limited by self ignorance and attached minds. They often trade and wheel and deal, floppy floppy to clinch the deal. Full of sales bullshit and often quit jobs, or partners with limited or no resilience,
The self ignorant blame others and therefore bounce from partner to partner, unable to communicate or they may even resort to cheating, flirting or being disloyal in some other way to a so called “partner”, when in reality they have both hooked up as convenience or until something better comes along. Limited people often settle for a loveless or sexless marriage of convenience, because “thats the way we’ve always done it” without any honest, open or challenging communication which all relationships of any depth require.
Those who blame others, or lack resilience and turn to “the bottle” or bong are often full of guilt or shame, or are in some other way insecure people or attached mind people without discernment or their own internal moral compsss and lack depth or critical thinking. These attached minds people are mostly NOT wrong or bad or evil, merely limited in consciousness. And that’s ok as they to are still included in one benign non judgmental universe.
These attached minds and entilted bullies, often project, often finger point and blame, often think they know others better than those “others” know them self and they simply remain attached to their ways of limited consciousness. And that’s ok.
Those who have grateful hearts and can see beauty in the little things have experienced a rich and meaning FULL LIFE.
It’s beautiful how the more things you open your self to in life, the softer your heart becomes. Because you realise, sooner not later, there is actually NOTHING to realise.
They accept them self exactly as they are.
Fully integrated. Whole not perfect.
Totally ok with not knowing. Sit easily with NOT knowing.
Easily Embrace multiple perspectives non judgementally.
Have high standards and strong boundaries.
Speak and share their kind truth gently, directly and fluidly.
Are erudite and worldly, multiple intelligences and wildly sassy, they do not take them self at all seriously, (unless it is…) are light hearted and wildly, fiercely compassionate, always including them self firstly. They realised long ago that enough is enough and any attached mind artifice that is not them is simply that. An attachment. of the mind. And Not reality.
They realise they do not need any convoluted, complex or contorted anxiety, stress or worry. It does not even exist in their moment to moment living in the moment. So they do not cheat. Them self.
They do not blame any other. Nor them self.
They have integrated their mummy and daddy and sibling "wounds", (conditioning/inter generational mind attachments/trauma/shadow) realising there is enough space to include it all. Once we dismiss all that we are not.
Forgive it all by radical awareness and acceptance (integrate NOT AGREE) to it all.
Wounded people manipulate. Or attempt to. They attach to thinking. Insecurity, inability to actually be aware, insincerity, unkind, addicted, attached, limited and limiting due to self ignorance and projecting, all OK, all included, (NOT AGREED TO BY YOU OF COURSE) as that is exactly where they are in any given moment. Let them be. Let IT be.
Far from whole people attempt to heal or fix or advise others. Why?
They "think", they "attach", they believe people are "broken" and need fixing, people pleasing, perfectionism, blind obedience, following dogma, limited and limiting, NOT BAD NOT WRONG NOT EVIL, when all they are is far from whole (not perfect).
And that is OK.
Absolute futility to think any less.
Far from whole people are often insincere, out to get whatever they can manipulate, gold diggers, attached to thinking they know and doing whatever it takes to get what they want. Limited insight. Limiting narrow minded beliefs. Misogyny, racism, ageism, perfectionism, people pleasing, often extremely subtle mind attachments and covert. That is why we listen without judgment, accept that they have these limitations, let them be, but do not have any need to fix of heal them. They are simply limited by their own self ignorance, following attached rules, following the pack, following peer pressure or blind obedience to the bully boss, or church, or creed, or media, or influencers or any other dogmatic narrow, neo liberal beliefs. All of these are extremely common, mostly benign, (unless they are also unkind assholes) and all stem from a simple lack of self knowledge. They are literally doing their best with their present moment awareness. And that is Ok. Listen, receive, witness, be aware and accept. Not necessarily agree. No need to argue or fight or give reasons or prove a point. Certainly do NOT try and change them, love them more and let them be.
Simply listen to them, love them from a safe distance and do not get enmeshed with honest stoners, dreary drunks or other life by passers and escapists who are yet to feel life fully or face them self.
People who attach to adolescent baby bottles still are young souls with a long way to go. Yet to connect and surrender to their own grace which is always and only found, within. To create the inner grace to simply listen, witness and realise, there is nothing to realise. There is no journey, no growth, no sudden “enlightenment” as these things are all products of attached minds and or sales people selling you a story of less than.
"Go do more yoga. Go do more meditation. Go do more people pleasing and holier than thou attached mind guru bullshit. All artifice. All addictions. All attached mind conditions. All completely unnecessary. Just remain a warm hearted kind person and take no shit. Know who the clowns are but do not attend every performance. Stay away if misaligned. Stay away if it is NOT your priority. Simply align with fresh flowing, moment to moment, non resistant unwavering core values and energy. Beware the snowflakes, the mummies boys and precious entitled cloistered princesses. Arrogance, dogmatic creeds, religious bigots, intellectual angry arguers, attached minds, conditioned minds, narrow minds, drunks, stoners, addicts of any sort, misogynists, racists, or any other limited beliefs, attached thinking they are better than. Let them simply all be. Lost little puppies needing all sorts of external or societal labels to get them through. And that is also all OK. Let Each Moment Be Exactly What It Is. Do NOT Resist the present moment. Resistance is what causes stress, and leads to even more limiting attached mind narrow mindedness. Smile like a monkey with a new banana and keep the assholes guessing. They have a desire to thinking they KNOW (due to attached mind insecurity or insincere blind obedience or intolerance of the present moment, an inability to sit with uncertainty, needing to control the agenda) or the assumers who attach to thinking they know. Let Them Be. They are all OK.
Once we get the great cosmic universal joke,
You, we, us, already are whole.
Consciousness is NOT something you choose.
Awareness of that simplicity MAY be beyond you at The Moment.
Enough is enough.
Right now.
Enough is enough.
In this moment.
That is the ONLY place reality exists. So do not attach or hang onto stories or projections or control agendas. Do not revert to means to escape the present moment. Do not attach to anything that artificially takes you away from the ONE present moment reality. Simplify. Stay Grounded. Remain centred in zero point consciousness, this ONE bare moment is as complex as reality gets. If you are real. Authentic. Not complex and convoluted and stuck in a mind attached lala fantasy land of people pleasing and perfectionism. Which do NOT exist.
Once we simply apply the torch of discernment and dismiss all that continually insults our soul or wide open already protected heart.
Avoid entangling with the insecure people pleasers. Or brat pack.
Avoid entangling with the assumers and attached thinkers. Or rat pack.
Avoid entangling with those who drain LIFE energetically or complain ceaselessly or are unable to receive and listen. Or those who project by way of shallow vacuous two minute inter changes of barista charged questions like "how are you?" or worse "what's up?" when they really do not have the time or space or inner grace to listen or receive, they are merely people pleasing as part of the job, (AND THAT IS OK as that is what two minute noodles have to do...) But if they then attach to thinking they know you better than you already know your self, that is a limiting lie and a dangerous mind attached projection and a sign of an insecure far from whole dis integrated energy. Let them be. Say hello, be polite and little else. Any leaking mind attachments, or limited or narrow or shallow or callow energy is simply NOT worth it. Let them be. Let IT be.
Then when you may one day choose to wonder what the actual fuck are we humans doing here anyway, beyond all the blink of an eye bullshit of survival and mind attachment to a role or job or career, you may actually start to wonder and be in awe, more. Realising all that none sense is just that. Attached mind conditioned None sense. Trained monkey hoops. WE all jump through. WE are conditioned from conception to do so. Unless you become aware of the guises and ploys used to attempt to control you. These are NOT conspiracy theories. They are simply systemic rules and regulations and limitations placed on creatures to cage, engage and control you. Unless you see through it and choose a different free flowing direction that is devoid of any mind attachments. Live in the moment. Mind Unattached and fully heart connected.
Some simple universal truths.
Dogma is dangerous.
Any attached Belief is limited and concluding. That's IT. Over.
There is NOT one good book. There are multiple diverse readings.
There is no enlightenment. You already are.
There is nowhere to get to. You already are.
There is no healing or fixing or therapy. You already are.
Once you let go. Which means to own and integrate.
Beyond attached mind. Beyond it all. You already are.
Once you dismiss and integrate and accept that enough is enough.
Wholeness in not perfection. Those people pleasers trying hard to "get somewhere" are the ones who end up stressed and attached to their certain roles.
Simply be that wonder fully inclusive human,
Being.
And then what?
Carry on! Whole and holy.
Live life. Fully. No limits.
Why so serious? Unless it is…
No more little boxes as the lyrical musical free flowing harmonies sing...
