100 NOT OUT. What A Legend. Thank You WW2 "Swede" of Canada in1945
The purpose of negative emotions is not to promote misery. It’s to prevent mistakes. Anger shows what to fight for. NOT fight with. Anxiety indicates what to prepare for. NOT to blame and project onto others. Guilt reveals who to care for. Be the first to Forgive regardless. Grief signals who to hold dear. If it or they matter or mattered, grief is perfectly normal and acceptable. Pain is a guide to the principles and values and standards worth protecting. If something becomes pain FULL, it is usually a sign to stop that choice of behaviour, be it physical pain or emotional pain. Unless of course you enjoy self flagellation... emotionally or physically.
Firstly be open to feel your own energy, check in often and ask "How Am I Feeling Right Now?" Can I even feel anything or am I numb? Am I non feeling or unresponsive or over the top reactionary and short fused and fly off the handle easily triggered? Or cool, calm and calculating to the point of overt inner denial or external manipulation? Simply learn to attune to your own inner beauty and then pause, then ask Who Am I really wanting to be as a result of MY choices, when I feel this energy flowing? If there is NO conscious pause or mindful gap or simple "one moment please" between event, response and outcome, then a less than wise behaviour choice may be the result. One that you may regret. One that you may repeat. One that you may become known for if emotional regulation and emotional intelligence is lacking if you are NOT able to firstly FEEL your own energy and then listen to your own energetic true nature, and less than wise fly off the handle without self regulation (the pause) as unwise patterns and reactions becomes habitual. That then becomes your new emotional "normal" your new energetic baseline over time which can become problematical if you are or were exposed to high levels of stress or chaos or drama whilst growing up. Your cortisol levels remain elevated permanently as that "feels normal" to those conditioned in high stress environment and a constant flight or fight, or freeze and fawn, or play dead and hide, or people pleasing or perfectionism results in adulthood. Only you can attune to your own energetic conditioning and inter generational patterns and then consciously choose to become more aware and pause, deliberate, respond, and NOT react. Or reach for the bottle to loosen up so you can feel something. Maybe less anxiety? Maybe not so down in the dumps? Maybe to escape or avoid or suppress what is perfectly normal human energy? If you allow the emotion to flow and recede and simply pass out of the body in it's own good time. If you hang on to the energy it will fester and linger and literally become trapped in your cells. Conditioned and programmed since birth.
Simply learn to witness your Self more subtly, more nuanced, more finely attuned, and feel your energy in motion (e motion) as it swirls around the body. Or not. Where do you feel the energy most intensely?
Do not absorb or become the energy, simply feel it, call it out "I am feeling anxious" then let ALL energy continue to flow and then pass through. You DO NOT need to find a reason to attach to or for the energy, "paralysis by analysis style", simply believe your true self and what ever you ARE feeling, the FIRST time. It is all OK. You are simply "normal" (whatever that means to be normal to be well adjusted to a profoundly "sick" society) as enough is enough. Character is centred and grounded and intrinsic, NOT reputation, which is second hand hearsay and external assumptions and labels applied by those who do not even know you. Maybe even a so called "expert" label applied.
Susan David’s work on Emotional Agility reminds us that emotions—both positive and negative—are just feedback data, not commands or directives. They offer valuable insights, once we connect and attune to our own energy, but energy in motion does not have to dictate our actions. Certainly learn to pause and self regulate when you feel more intense energy is activated, appreciate and appropriate, experience The Joy, fully, experience the anger fully, experience the whatever energy fully. But do NOT base your CHOICE of re actions, or CHOICE of behaviour, on that energy. This is why depressants and stimulants added to your energy stream (like drugs and alcohol) should be avoided if they result in emotive dis regulation or heightened negative energy that leads to unacceptable behaviour, like aggression, control and bullying, verbal or physical violence or self harm. The going UP to loosen UP is easy, (if you need to add depressants or stimulant to relax and "unwind" from a heightened state of stress or self ignorance or anxiety in the first place...) the coming down from ANY excessive consumption of anything is always more problematical if it takes the body out of homeostasis. Hang overs are NOT just physical and alcohol as the world's most carcinogenic depressant that stays in the bodies cells for 8 days after apparent sobriety. Being highly toxic and highly addictive, alcohol has a multiplier effect on somatic physiology that actually adds to any pre existing anxiety (or other mental health issues) during those next 8 days.
Susan David’s work on Emotional Agility reminds us that emotions—both positive and negative—are just feedback data, not commands or directives. They offer valuable insights, once we connect and attune to our own energy, but energy in motion does not have to dictate our actions. Certainly learn to pause and self regulate when you feel more intense energy is activated, appreciate and appropriate, experience The Joy, fully, experience the anger fully, experience the whatever energy fully. But do NOT base your CHOICE of re actions, or CHOICE of behaviour, on that energy. This is why depressants and stimulants added to your energy stream (like drugs and alcohol) should be avoided if they result in emotive dis regulation or heightened negative energy that leads to unacceptable behaviour, like aggression, control and bullying, verbal or physical violence or self harm. The going UP to loosen UP is easy, (if you need to add depressants or stimulant to relax and "unwind" from a heightened state of stress or self ignorance or anxiety in the first place...) the coming down from ANY excessive consumption of anything is always more problematical if it takes the body out of homeostasis. Hang overs are NOT just physical and alcohol as the world's most carcinogenic depressant that stays in the bodies cells for 8 days after apparent sobriety. Being highly toxic and highly addictive, alcohol has a multiplier effect on somatic physiology that actually adds to any pre existing anxiety (or other mental health issues) during those next 8 days.
The key is to notice your own felt energy in motion without being owned or controlled by emotion or attached to them. Instead of suppressing or over-identifying with difficult emotions, we can use them as signals to make intentional choices.
Ask yourself: What is this energy/emotion teaching me? Can I even feel my own energy? Fully? Or am I already too wasted or under the weather to care?
And then consciously decide—how do I want to respond to my own authentic energy in a way that aligns with my core values? Do I want to continue to be an unfeeling consciously drunken dickhead, reacting and abusive and potentially violent and then have the "hung over heightened anxiety" for the next 8 days? Absolutely enjoy anything in moderation within your own state of consciousness self respect boundaries. And that priority level varies for every human. Some who are well practiced can consume all day as their base level is higher. Others, one drink wonders. Either are OK as long as NO negative behaviour choices result (or long term health issues or brain injury occurs)
