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We are always our own source of resilience, strength and renewal for our own souls. 

No one esle can do it for us. 

This is to be response able and account able for your own life FULLNESS. 

Now to raise some suggestions in this regard. 

Dismiss all that may not resonate with your own soul. 

These are mere suggestions to consider. 

First, we must learn to be quiet, to settle down INSIDE in one spot for a spell. 

Sometime during each day, everything EXTERNAL should stop and the art of being still is prioritised. 

For some highly strung or temperamental people, this will not be easy because their entire nervous system and body have been geared over the years to stress and worry and chaos and drama. attuned to overt and tense functions. Possibly brought up in care giving circumstances that were less than ideal, alcoholism, chaos and drama and families bouncing from crisis to crisis, brought up in a perpetually stressed environment, with care givers holefully doing their best to listen and respond with the child as their priority, but adults who are perpetually anxious and worried from their own dis integrated childhood are already behind the eight ball. 

Nevertheless, the art of being still, being silent, preferably in solitude for just 30 minutes a day to start, must be practiced until development and habit are sure. 

If possible, find a comfortable chair or quiet relaxing spot where one may engage in nothing. 

There is no reading of a book or a paper, no electronics, no phones, no music, no attached thinking of the next course of action, "where do I have to be next", no rejecting of past choices or immediate mistakes, no SELF talk, positive or negative, at all. 

One is engaged in doing nothing at all except being still. 

And that is often very hard, if not impossible for complex mind attached busy thinkers. 

It is even harder for those who conditionally, habitually, reach for a substance to "loosen up" or "calm their nerves" or "let go of the days stress". Try NOT to reach for an habitual addictive adolescent nerve calmer. 

At first, in attempying to be still and silent, one may get drowsy and actually go to sleep. 

This is very common and very normal. 

The time will come, however, when one may be quiet INSIDE for a spell without drowsiness, or dissasociation, or anxiety,  but instead with a fresh quality of creative lassitude that makes for a refreshing renewal of mind and body. All in a short 30 minutes of genuine stillness.  

Such short periods (FOR YOU) may be prioritised from the greedy demands of one’s day’s work; they may be islanded in a sea of other human beings; they may come only at the end of the day, or in the quiet hush of the early morning. 

We must, each one of us, find [our] own time and develop [our] own peculiar art of being quiet. 

Chaplain Charles Lattimore Howard shares the importance of stillness in his own journey:

"Being still has been a necessary part of my walk. Stillness, I should add, is not for me the same as emptiness. While the waters of the pond might be still on the surface, there is much life moving within. Life is within. Love is within!

When I am still I do not empty myself. I would rather be filled with love than have nothing within. And being still allows for this to happen, or rather being still allows for you and I to notice that this has happened already. The love is there within us, even now. Yet sometimes the waves of life rage so incessantly that it is difficult to see or feel that love."

Pausing and being still enough to notice love within and around is a deeply powerful and countercultural act…. In the case of most of contemporary society, stillness is a prophetic act, defying that which demands that we move quickly and move upward, demand that we be busyily productive at all times, demand that we never slow down so that grace may find us. Modern society causes stress simply by the speed at which it demands us to THINK and then react to that thinking, quick quick hurry up now, move along and be productive, hurry up and get your work finished, so the micro manager can give you more busy work.  Stillness challenges the notion that it is better (for who?) to be busy and occupied. Stillness and silence and solitude openly questions the call to be constantly distracted and perpetually switched on and plugged in. For who? Your health and well being or the productivity overlords? Make sure you listen to and appreciate and do not take for granted those who encourage you to slow down and contemplate in silent stillness. Just for 30 minites minimum a day. And the BEST person to listen to and appreciate is always YOU. Once you also know who YOU really are... Enjoy your own beautiful paradox. All the best.   

Make sure you appreciate the people who love you for free, not for what you can do for them.

— Unkonfined (@unkonfined) March 25, 2025