From Love, NOT For Love.
CO CREATE RELATIONSHIPS THAT COME ONLY FROM THE WHOLENESS OF LOVE.
People raised FROM love and people raised in chaos can both show up for you, support you, and care deeply—but the INTENTIONAL energy behind their actions is fundamentally different.
On the surface, they may look the same. They may give, sacrifice, and go to great lengths to keep you close. But what drives them—their somatic lived experiences, their inner world, their motivations, their expectations, HOW THEY WERE CONDITIONED IN THEIR FAMILY OF ORIGIN, comes from entirely different places.
Being raised FROM love builds a foundation of trust, emotional safety, and open hearted connection.
These individuals raised FROM love learn that they are valued not for what they do,
but for who they are.
From love actions come from a place of wholeness. Not fractured chaotic energy and far from whole.
From love gives because they inconditionally want to, not because they THINK they have to.
From love communicates clearly from understanding, not harshness or revenge or fear.
From love builds relationships rooted in mutual respect, growth, and compassion.
From love presence is warm, calm, and steady.
Those raised in survival chaos mode also know how to give — but often from a place of necessity, for seeking the love they are still unable to give them self, and not freedom.
For CONDITIONAL love is ATTACHED to a survival need to feel safe, accepted, or needed.
Raised in chaos lovers learned that love is something to earn, not something that is given inconditionally and freely.
Those raised in chaos, while generous, are often driven or motivated by fear—fear of being abandoned, rejected, or forgotten.
Chaotic love is often associated with quickly falling into short term relationships or even multiple hook ups, THINKING that this will rescue them from survival mode, lonliness or other still to be integrated "chaotic" energy still unresolved from childhood "trauma" or conditioning.
External attached validation becomes the currency of chaos.
Attachment becomes dramatic explosive performance.
Adult temper tantrums and unresolved harshness, often towards them self.
Survival mode or chaos mode is both harsh and deeply reactive.
Chaotic love and attachment depends on external cues to determine worth.
These individuals may be hyper-vigilant, constantly anxious, often addicted, scanning for signs of danger, disapproval, or emotional withdrawal.
They usually attach quickly to any gratuitous offerings of "love" and then hold tightly, or people-please out of fear of losing their place in your life.
In contrast, those raised FROM the fullness of a calmly loving, stable and UNCHAOTIC childhood love is responsive, love is tender, love is a simple adoration and not at all harshly revenge seeking or reactive.
They can hold space for their own True Nature, firstly, and then hold space for others without losing themselves.
They LISTEN attentively, they can focus and pay attention easily and seek to understand before they seek to be understood.
Their sense of grounded emotional intelligence and self knowledge of secure connection is internal, not dependent on others’ approval.
Both seek connection—but only one does it from a place of inner peace.
Discernment is key.
Attached chaotic energy controls by latching on tightly and is fueled by fear of loss.
The openly connected heart, FROM Love, is intrinsic and secure in its nature, and FROM love discerns as the freedom and joy of authentic, mutual, consensual light hearted connection.
To know the difference is to protect your peace, and to choose relationships that reflect true, grounded love—not a harsh, chaotic, draining survival energy disguised as affection.
