KTBH

Empathy burnout is real. People need to understand that when you empathize with someone, it doesn't mean you have to take on their emotions, solve their problems, or absorb their energy. Observe do not absorb. Empathy is about listening, empathy is about trying to understand from another's perspective, empathy is acknowledging (not validating) their emotions, (energy in motion) not carrying their burdens, not carrying their lack of awareness or conditioning or unresolved "trauma".

 

Instead, remain as the peace you already are in your world. It does not matter what people around you are doing. Witness and listen of course. Love them of course. Accept them of course. Let them be. 

DO NOT necessarily agree with them of course. Observe silently if need be, with equanimity always, "Isn't that interesting?"

Let this one bare moment be exactly what is is. Do not resist or fight or argue with whatever it is they are right now. Let them be. Let it be. Accept DO NOT agree. Of course if they directly attempt to tell you who YOU are, or gaslight, or project, or whine and whinge constantly, protect what needs protecting; your values, your truth, your way of being and how you choose to be. Don't let misogynistic assholes be. Call that shit out. Kindly. Don't let entitled bullies be. Call that insecurity out. Kindly. Don't let racist, narrow, callow or shallow self ignorant limiting myopic assholes be. Kindly walk away and never to return. 

What always matters is that you discerningly choose to align, over and over again with that which keeps you in your calm, focused and centred space. If that means being more discerning as to who has access to your energy, let THAT truth be. Don't fall for the ever so common people pleasing, perfectionist, counterfeit empathy trap. The overly nice guy who is really still a little lost trained, chained, puppy. The ones still hooked on by pass drugs or copious alcohol or only one happy clapping bar stool hour of little boys over sharing bullshit to get him through? The harsh armoured hearts of soldier on. Stiff upper lip. Stoic, defensive, brittle, the worry all NOT warrior. The limited and limiting complainers and finger pointing "otherers". You know the ones, "It MUST be all those others over there fault, (about whatever they are insecure or absolutely certain about) because my world view is THE right one". 

You know the scared racist ones. You sense the scarred insecure ones as they are usually the ones unable to receive or listen to equality or diversity with genuine empathy. You know the false prophets loudly trumpeting, the pass their use by date preachers, converting and blithely bleating or the just plain delusion misogynists with NFI. Who they are. Yet. So they blame every one else to avoid responsibility of owning their own inter generational blessings. And the irony is, every human has them, these "attached mind conditions since birth", many just remain self ignorant of them self as it is easier to point the finger than face their own music. Or look in their soul mirror. 

The attached mind conditioning comes in infinite forms. 

The transactional capitalistic sales sap. 

Profit, rapacious extraction, greed, lies, cheat steal. Fuck mother earth up. Do whatever it takes, takes, takes to seal the deal. Rampant unchecked capitalism. The classic rip off, low quality, lack of attention to detail or human humane quality service, "you had one job" style, be responsible, have some self respect in a job well done or a coffee well made or a beer well served. Yes, have pride in what you do and more importantly, who you intrinsically are. And do you yet know who you are? Really? Once you dismiss all that you are not. 

You know the lost puppies, the people pleasing no boundaries saviour who attend ever drama laden crisis as if they can save every soul. Exhausting. Burn out, Stress. Friction. Conflicted artificial empathy intelligence. 

When you already know what nourishes your central nervous system, what your peace feels like, what keeps you flowing and connected and choosing to be one whole sovereign FULL being, why expose your self to crap energy or vapid nonsense or situations that bring you NO joy or less than you deserve? 

Sheer definition of madness (stress and dis ease) is wasting time on self inflicted crapola of less than you deserve, be that energy or places or people. Why even do that to your self? And remember, those places and people and energies are NOT evil or bad or wrong, they are merely misaligned for you and where you choose to consciously live your life. Simply drop and dismiss and discard all that insults your soul. And what remains? You do. The real unwavering you. The authentic connected FULLY to your self YOU. The unchanging, liberated core values first YOU. The unadulterated, simple, kind and aligned fiercely flowing fully integrated YOU. The gracious take no less than crap YOU. The totally true natured YOU. The intentionally aware of your own energy YOU. The fully aware catch your own ENERGY early you. The one who rarely gets triggered because you accept reality of this one bare moment YOU. The one who does not run  around people pleasing and mind attaching to misaligned energy, the whining, the complaining, the staid, stuck, limiting assholes, the scared limited racists, the little boy misogynistic man childs, the mind attached and stressed out counterfeit empaths, the polly anna perfectionists afraid of learning something new or fresh eyes to see from a broader diverse perspective (ie challenging your own beliefs and taking responsibility for learning, then discarding welded on restrictive limited patterns and/or be more than OK with uncertainty and NOT knowing and and learning daily lessons by failing forward) 

Watch as you remain whole, 

Listen as you remain untriggered, 

Choose appropriate, discerning, aligned intelligent actions, 

as you remain calmly connected to your breath, 

pausing twice every cycle, 

as the situation around you transforms as well.

It is so simple to survive every one of your moments.

You have already done it to this point in your life.

So why do you THINK you need to do life any differently? 

Attached societal BS?

Attached external expectations? 

Attached mummy and daddy and sibling unresolved "wounds"? 

Your OWN attached mind of a negative NOT good enough bullshit LIMITING story? 

So you get addicted/attached/externalised to whatever... to help you through? 

Fake it till you make it... what utter by pass crap. 

Just accept your present moment and be the beauty FULL light hearted crazy mofo you are. 

Dismiss your own attached and limiting mind? 

Don't blame. Or project. Or by pass. Own up and own IT. Fully. Integrated. 

No seeking revenge. No bitterness. No crap nonsense misaligned LIMITING energy. 

No little girl/little boy people pleasing artificial appeasement and polly anna peace keeping.

Where does any of your own attached self talk of NOT already being "enough" even come from?

Challenge that attached belief immediately. 

YOU already are whole, 

once you get out of your own way, 

once you get out of your attached over thinking head space. 

once you welcome home and integrate all those subtle strands and finely nuanced inherited conditions. 

Don't suppress anything and don't let them go FFS, instead, welcome them in. 

Be whole. Be complete. Be totally aware and OK with whatever energy is present right now. 

Catch your own energy early. 

Don't blame any other. Own YOUR energy totally. 

And be more than OK with whatever it is. 

Tired? Rest.

Cranky? Rest.

Pissed off? Be fully angry and kindly, And then Rest. 

Hungry? Nourish.

Thirsty? Hydrate. 

Joyous? Enjoy fully. 

Confused? Accept. 

Silly? Let loose.

Sad? Fully. 

Lonely? Connect. 

Stressed? Why? 

Relaxed? Awesome! 

Weed out the root cause of your energy that YOU caught early 

and be OK even if you can't weed it out. 

Self love is NOT a cliche. 

Self awareness is real. 

Captain of Your Own Shift is obvious. 

Co creation with aligned and kind souls is AWESOME.

Don't let any sad sack limiting mofo tell YOU otherwise. 

And whatever you discerningly choose to do and be? 

Always be kind. 

It is extremely simple. 

And that's why complex, over thinking attached mind limited people find simplicity hard. 

Let them be. 

Love them more (from a safe distance if need be) 

And from whatever FULLNESS you discerningly choose?

Always

From Love NOT for love.